A girl shared how she had a one night stand one day after her break up.
Here is the story
I (20F) had a ONS with my best friend (19F) a day after my BF (20M) broke up with me. He says he’s now done with me.
My boyfriend broke up with me a few days ago, stating that he wants to live his life and be single and have fun with his mates – he wanted to be ‘free’ because he felt trapped in the relationship. Prior to this break up, we had a trial separation for 4 days where we didn’t talk to each other, when this ended we had a conversation and we both agreed to work on it, and then 2 days later he broke up with me, and we weren’t talking.
I went out with my best friend, her boyfriend (19M) and his friends. We all got incredibly drunk playing card games. I spent some time ranting about my now-ex and later on in the night, I kissed my best friend (19F) who we’ll call M and next thing I know is we’re under the blanket doing stuff (most of our clothes on). Her bf (19M) who we’ll call C, knocked on the door, came in (I put the blanket over me and put my trousers on) and made a comment about a threesome to us and I declined, got up and went home. I remember snippets because of how drunk I was but thats what happened.
A few days after this, after minimal conversation – only necessary stuff like when I’m getting my clothes from his, me and my ex had a conversation and ended up meeting up and sleeping togther.
After that we decided to have a conversation about where we were heading (we made comments about FWBS but I wanted to have a serious chat), we both said if it was meant to be it will be and there’s no reason for us not to get back together if we’re both still single and in a better place mentally. I decided to tell my ex about my hook-up with M because I wanted to be open and honest. I immediately profusely apologised and said that I was drunk and didn’t register what was going on and that I regretted it straight after. Long story short – he told me that he’s no longer here for me and wants nothing to do with me, and that he’s done.
His side is that I slept with someone else a day after we broke up after giving him a grace period because he was unsure whether he wanted to break up with me (i completely forgot that i said i would wait for a week and then move on), and I waited until after we slept together to tell him. He said if he knew before we got intimate then he wouldn’t have slept with me.
I just need advice on how to approach this and handle this situation. I’ve apologised profusely and stated that I was drunk and didn’t register what was going on and it was a mistake and we were broken up.