What is the most polite way to ask a casual friend if he wants to have s- with me?
Context
I broke up with my ex a couple months ago and am not really feeling like chasing new relationships right now. But I still have a healthy libido and want to get laid.
I’ve got a friend whom I consider as an acquaintance who lives very near to me, like opposite block near. I don’t know him super well, but he has always been very sweet and polite to me and we hang out together sometimes.
We have a little bit of an age gap (I am 22 and I believe he is about 30) that I think would prevent us from actually going out together or anything. But I do think he is hot and I’d like to go for a ride if he is down.
But I’ve never really done the friends-with-benefits thing and I’m not sure how you go about asking someone for that. Is it as simple as just asking him “Hey, do you want to come over and f- me?”
What is the most polite way to tell someone that you’re not looking for a relationship, but would like to have s- with them?
Here are what netizens think
- Probably the most turned on I’ve ever been (me, 32M) is when I went out with a girl and afterwards she pretty much said, “I know this is forward but how do you feel about hooking up?”
It was direct and it was so complimentary that it turned me on. We men don’t get that direct communication very often. Just text him that or ask him in person. - When I was in my early 20s, a 30-something work friend asked me back to her place after we hung out at a bar.
I was turned on by how direct she was. As you said, it’s not often that most of us guys have a woman flat out say “so you want to go back to my/your place and f- right now?”. - Be straightforward and honest. Say something like “hey I split up with my ex a while back and have always found you attractive. If you’re interested in hooking up sometime we should”.