Boyfriend (m28) insists on releasing all his load inside me (f26).
Context
I have an IUD and he usually finishes inside me. But I’m tired of being messy and having to deal with it after he leaves. I told him I don’t want him to finish inside me anymore, and he began to panic.
He says that ‘helmets’ are too expensive, a “waste” of money.
I have a skin contact allergy to men’s load so he can’t finish on my external body parts.
And I suggested he finish on a towel or tissue but he shot that down immediately.
Now he’s saying we might as well be ‘pure and virtuous’ because there are no other options.
I used to enjoy him finishing inside me, but in practice it gets so messy, over my clothes, linens, and underwear, takes forever to come out, and generally just smells bad.
What are the other locations where he can release his load? Any suggestions?
Here are what netizens think
- As a guy who wears ‘helmet’, for the exact reason of not making a mess, tell him to wrap it up. Those excuses are crap, and he knows it. You’ve set a boundary. He needs to respect it.
- Mouth. You could also shift responsibility for clean up to him. If he wants to finish inside he’s going to be helping you clean up.
- I understand unprotected s- is more appealing than having s- with what feels like slimy cling wrap on your ‘kkj’, but it’s not something worth throwing a tantrum about.
Find a guy who will wrap it up or at least aid in the clean up. I can’t imagine ever leaving my partner to clean up a mess I’m partially responsible for unless told otherwise. - If your main complaint is the mess and there are no other concerns like pregnancy, there are ways to fix the messiness!
We keep towels in the nightstand to grab as soon as we are done so I can immediately put it between my legs while I make my way to the bathroom.
Once there, I put a panty liner on to catch the remainder. I can’t stand it slowly trickling out overnight. Hope this helps.