A guy from my course has been bugging me over the idea of giving him an affirmation of my feelings for him. I am not sure what kind of affirmation he needs. An affirmation from me that he can leave his girlfriend to jump ship with a new girl? Or an affirmation from me that I am okay with my man leaving his gf so that he can repeat the act in the future? Either way, I only want to be in one where I feel valued and proud to claim my rightful place.
He asserts being with his gf makes him feel like a 10/10, while I make him feel like a 2/10 (Btw I only know about him in a rs midway into knowing him). Imo, it is not my job to make him a 10/10 or a 2/10, because a person’s intrinsic value is what makes the number.
I can be with a man who is a 2/10 or a man who is a 10/10, but no matter what value people label him, I chose him because he is a 10/10 in my eye, and even if he is not, I know that I can make up for the rest of it. So no bro. I do not wish for you to be a better man for me. Instead, please focus on being a better man for your gf and work towards the shared goals. As much as you want me out of your life, the feelings are mutual. We are not good for each other.
Here are what netizens think:
- A very confusing post. He’s asking for your affirmation, which means he likes you? Then his gf makes him feel 10/10, while you only make him feel like a 2/10. And then he wants you out of his life. Simi sai is going on?
- Affirmation is actually a type of love language, you are still in contact with him because he is giving you a gift? It also could be you giving him the physical touch in exchange for act of service… either way you guys are not spending enough quality time to access on this situation.
- Finally. Someone who sees the huge red flag as red and not rose-tinted.