The guy I’m dating slapped me while we were doing it in bed and I don’t know how to feel about it.
So I (23f) started seeing a guy (44m) last month. I should also mention this is my first ever relationship. After the third time of meeting he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes.
We’d spoken about the stuff we’re into and I’d said that pain wasn’t really something that turned me on, he seemed accepting of this but the last few times we’ve met up he’s started to bite me down there/on my thighs and then last time we met he slapped me across the face.
I was in shock and didn’t know what to do.
I’m not sure how to deal with this. I know that I don’t like this stuff but out of the bedroom he’s really lovely. I think everything has moved too fast and he’s taking advantage of the fact I’ve never been a relationship before but also I don’t know if I’m just overthinking this all.
Apologies for the rambling and if this doesn’t make sense, I just don’t know how to process this.
Update: I just wanted to give an update.
I broke it off. I’d already kind of made my mind up about the situation I think I just needed someone to validate that I wasn’t overreacting. A lot of other thoughts and feelings I’d been having bubbled up to the surface after I posted and I realised that this really wasn’t the direction I wanted to be going with this relationship.
He took it surprisingly well, which then made me think I hadn’t done the right thing but it’s been a couple of days since we last spoke and tbh I’ve realised I don’t miss him as much as I thought I would so know I’ve definitely made the right decision.