How do you deal with a situationship? 1.5 years of being ‘together’ and yet the guy you love is still undecided on you.
Even when you give your 200%, you are never good enough. You give him everything without expecting anything in return and yet you are never good enough. He is out there knowing other girls under the pretence of friendship & gets mad when you express your concern.
Somehow your concern is always a manifestation of your paranoia, impatience and anxiety. It’s never valid and you start second-guessing your gut and feelings all the time.
Funny how he doesn’t want you but at the same time, he doesn’t want to let you go. Despite all the red flags with his loyalty and commitment, you can’t let go too because you sincerely hopes he will change one day. Do you stay when he doesn’t call or check in on you? Do you stay when meeting you has become a chore?
Do you stay when you’re non existent to the people around him? Do you stay when you’re never his priority?
I guess I know the answers to my own questions but letting go is tough when I’m shrouded and blinded by my love for him. Question now is: How much longer can I wait until the heart runs out of love?
Here are what netizens think:
- You know you’re just there to feed his ego. You know exactly what’s going on. He’s using you and you know it. Stop hoping this situation will turn into a real relationship. Don’t believe all those romantic movies and hope yours will turn into a happy ending. You want to find the relationship you dream of? The longer you stay with him, the longer it will take for you to meet a better guy. This is not the best that you deserve and you know it. Be kind to yourself. Leave him.
- OP need to do more research on what guy wants , if his needs and interests are not able to fulfill. Then move on to a more deserving guy. If you are not his gf , just a date. OP need to become the main chick among his pool of girls and secure that relationship with serious commitment from guy.
- I’m always mystified as to the existence of such posts here when the woman herself acknowledges it’s a situation-ship aka a FWB arrangement and still, the refusal to wake up her idea. There’s actually nothing holding you back from leaving. You are the one who’s unwilling to undo the tangle. Can’t really blame the guy because he’s likely been upfront about his stand from the start, and YOU chose to carry on under the false impression that your devotion will change him “one day”. There is no such one day.