I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a few months now and I’m starting to realize just how different our lifestyles are.
I’m a 9-5 girl, working regular hours in an office setting.
I enjoy the stability of this job and the regular paycheck that comes with it.
My boyfriend, on the other hand, is self-employed and works when he wants.
He’s his own boss and is free to set his own schedule.
At first I thought this would be a great thing because he’d always be available to hang out or do things together.
Unfortunately, it’s been anything but that.
He’s always busy and I’m constantly left waiting for him.
I’ve started to feel like he has no time for me at all.
When I try to talk to him about it, he just brushes it off as “the nature of self-employment”.
He says that if he doesn’t take every opportunity he can, he won’t make any money.
He also tried to explain on how the schedule of a self employed person is not fixed as clients do not always come by at a regular timing.
It can be any time when the clients require his services and if he does not attend to them, he will lose the business.
While I understand where he is coming from, but that doesn’t change the fact that I’m always left feeling neglected.
I keep thinking that things will eventually get better, but the longer we’re together, the harder it seems to be.
I’m starting to feel like our relationship is suffering because I can’t get the attention I need and deserve.
I’m starting to resent his lifestyle, and I don’t know how much longer I can take it.
I know he loves me and wants to make time for us, but it’s just not enough.
I can’t help but feel like he’d rather be working than spending time with me.
It’s become so bad that I’m seriously considering ending the relationship.
I’m sad and frustrated and I don’t know what else to do.