I (29f) regret divorcing my husband (29m) and want to reconcile. How to approach?
3 years ago I got pregnant and due to hormones and the stress of being pregnant I guess you could say I lost my mind.
I started listening to my parents about how he was not adequate still playing with toys when he is a grown man (he still has a group of friends he plays with) how he doesn’t provide enough (he earns good money just not good enough in their eyes, ffs we could afford to buy a house together in our 20s who can do that today), and other things which I will not get into here.
Anyway I became rude and snappy, treated him worse and worse and it culminated in me asking for divorce 1 year after our son was born.
During this whole time he was never fighting back. I believe he was even worried about me because pregnancy and having a toddler was stressful especially how I biologically had to bear most of the burden.
He would organize days of for me when the baby was born so I could go out or have his sister come over to watch over our son so we could go out.
But I didn’t see any of that. Now mind you we had our arguments but he was present and supportive of me and my plans.
Our arguments were more about how he would stay up late playing video games and not sleep enough, or people saying the wrong things nothing that couldn’t be worked out by talking.
When I asked for divorce he didn’t fight it. He said I will give you everything if you want just let me spend time with our son.
I agreed and that was the first time I noticed I messed up, not enough to call it off but it was the first of many stomach knots to come.
As you can imagine my parents were happy, his family more sad then angry that I divorced him.
Over the last years he would come and spend time with our son as often as he could and I would never fight it , I enjoy watching the two of them together.
Now as soon as the divorce was finished I started having regrets. They started out small. But they are unbearable now.
I miss how he would look for any chance to bite my hips, I would pretend I hate it and complain he would retort it’s my fault because I look adorable.
How he would drool in his sleep all over my arm. How he would say something romantic and then immediately proclaim himself the most romantic man alive and that I am so lucky to have him (it was infuriating how he would ruin aww moments).
This week my parents came over and apologized my dad told me they both noticed how unhappy I was, and the only time my eyes look alive is either when I talk about my son or his visits.
They said they should have been supportive and realized they had a hand breaking up my marriage. They just want me to be happy.
And if he made me happy they should have not treated him or our marriage as they did. I broke down screamed how they ruined my life how I miss him and want back my husband.
They both hugged me and cried with me and said sorry in a thousand different ways. After we calmed down they said I should speak to him and see if there is any chance to try again.
He is always friendly when he comes and visits and whenever I need help he comes running, makes me feel optimistic I still have a chance.
Now just to clarify my parents are also to blame but most of the blame falls on me it was me who listened and me who filed for divorce.
My question is, what to say how to approach him? Tomorrow he is coming to take our son for a walk and to the park.
Do I call him and ask to meet when he is not visiting? I need advice please help. I know I messed up and I’ll regret it for the rest of my life but I want another chance. He is single and has been since divorce same as me.