I got scolded for not giving my cousin a plus one to my wedding because his girlfriend smells like eggs?
I am about to marry my partner next week. We both have big families, so it’s going to be a big wedding. I have 3 siblings and more than a dozen cousins, and I wanted to invite them all.
One of my cousins who’s closest to me in age is Mike. He also lives closer to me than some of the rest of the family, so I’ve had the chance to see him more than the others, including meeting his girlfriend, Anna.
She’s nice, I guess, but she smells like eggs all the time. It makes her hard to be around, and that stress isn’t something I want to deal with at my wedding.
When I brought up my concerns with my partner and told him that I didn’t want her coming, he said it was my side of the family and I could do what I wanted with the invitations. So I did. She’s not coming. I sent my cousin an invite. No plush one.
Well, Mike just found out he’s the only close family member not getting a plus one, and he was upset. He asked if there was a mistake, and despite not wanting to deal with his drama, I told him the truth. It wasn’t a mistake. I just didn’t want Anna coming. When he pressed me on the issue, I told him that she smelled, was hard to be around, and I didn’t want her coming.
He yelled at me and called me some unpleasant things before saying if she wasn’t coming then neither was he.
I told him he had to come. It’s my wedding and he has to be there. He ignored me, and then he blocked me.
I understand why he might be upset, but he has to be able to see my side too. Am I really the one at fault for not wanting to add stress to my wedding?