My girlfriend doesn’t want to work, and she hasn’t worked throughout our relationship. She wants the taitai life because her father is rich and her mother got to be a housewife. So I have been supporting both of us with my pay alone, which is not much, and I don’t get to save even though I have been working for years. We are living paycheck to paycheck, which was okay for me last time but now that we are talking about long-term, I’m not sure if I can live like this forever.
I get stressed about our BTO thinking about the money I need to fork out, but she will just tell me to find another job that has higher pay and she even told me to borrow from my family. Her family doesn’t want to lend us the money for our house, because my girlfriend has never contributed to the family business. She has been pressuring me to get money from my family whenever I bring up about financial issues, but my family is just a low to medium income family. I have tried borrowing and even forced money from my family members and it has caused a lot of arguments.
We have been living together and she doesn’t do housework either, my parents are the ones doing all the housework while she just does nothing at home and watch her dramas. She doesn’t even offer to buy meals for my parents when they are at home.
She insists that I propose with a diamond ring which will take months for me to save up for, otherwise she says it will make her look bad and she will not marry me, which is why I’m in a dilemma now. I feel that she doesn’t care about my financial pressures and she’s willing to make me suffer for what she wants.
In case you are wondering..she’s not very attractive either. We are both considered unattractive, which is why I hesitate to break up because I know I can’t find someone else. I’ve been wanting to lose weight but she insists I stay fat so I won’t attract other girls, but I am concerned about my health as well.
What should I do?