Been offered a hook up, and I denied it. Big Regret.
Backstory: I’m (24F) and was at a work party, when my colleague (22M) flirted with me the entire night. After the party, we went to a bar, danced, talked, and cuddled in the couch.
Around 3:00AM he asked me to crash at his place, implying he wanted to hook up. I said no, and told him I was expected to be home, when in reality I was afraid of the consequences resulting in a one night stand with a younger colleague, and I’m not particularly interested in forming a relationship with him.
I’m severely regretting my decision because he’s really hot, and I’m completely infatuated. Now during work, I look over at his desk expecting him to approach me, like he did at the work party, but he never does.
How do I progress with this? Or have I lost my shot?
Netizens’ comments
- Wouldn’t say you lost your shot but he shot his and got turned down so the next move would be up to you to make. He probably isn’t going to approach you to get turned down again, once sucks bad enough lol.
- At the very least, ball is now in YOUR court to approach him. He can’t keep suggesting things to you without losing gentleman status. Time for you to risk the same amount of rejection and suggest something to him! And even then he could say no, maybe moving on.
- He is being tactful in not approaching again after you said no. If you are still interested, now you must make a move.
- What shot did you take here exactly?
You turned him down and now seemingly have an expectation he is going to approach you again? Have some courage and approach him yourself. If he then turns you down maybe you can say you missed your chance… but if you expect something to fall into your lap after already declining it once, maybe your mindset is flawed. - Like wtf, you rejected him and still expect him to insist and approach you again?
You rejected the dude. The dude understands that no means no and is acting as he should. If anything you should approach now… Come on