Why attached men seem to be more attractive than single ones?
I’m female, in my late 20s. I take care of my looks and health and hold a decent job with good long term prospects. I’ve always believed that I do not need to depend on anyone.
I grew up in a single parent environment which probably explains why I feel the need to be independent and self reliant. My mother never remarried and we have upgraded to a new home nearer to the CBD area after I’ve been promoted twice in my current job. I wanted my mother to be proud of me and I wanted live nearer to my workplace too.
I’ve been on the dating scene for a while. I notice I enjoy being pursued but somehow I lose interest quickly. Somehow I just find some men are noobs or do very cliche dating tactics to try and win me over. One incident was a guy bought me the latest phone model when I casually mentioned my phone was damaged. Somehow I wasn’t impressed and I feel suspicious instead.
I did accept the phone and resold it as I don’t like that model. Is a phone gift enough to make me want to open my legs? No. I know my expectations are high. A guy must earn more than me before I would even go on a date with him.
I do find attached guys more attractive. If a woman wanted him, did I miss out on something about the him? I find myself secretly envious and looking at some of my friends’ choice of men in a different light when I hear them talking about how sweet and loving their partners are.
I find myself drawn to this particular friend within my social circle. He got married not long ago. Reason was his gf of a few months got pregnant so they rushed through the engagement and got married before their child is born. His wife is rather pretty. He did tried to ask me out years ago but I had rejected him as I don’t find him attractive. But somehow now I find him very handsome and hot as a new husband and father.
It’s like if no one wanted this guy, I’d better stay away from him too. Do some men think the same way too?