Dating my bf close to 3 months but I saw something on his YouTube feed that might be a red flag.
We were watching YouTube together, but I notice his home page is full of videos of people like Jordan Peterson, and the titles of the videos are quite insensitive. I did not question him then, but when I researched myself, I found out that these people are like men’s rights activists and are quite misogynistic.
I would consider myself a feminist, so I brought up his YouTube history with him, and he says he just watches it “for fun”. Idk if this is true, or will he abuse me or something in the future. So far, he has never been physical with me and has been quite nice. We do have occasional arguments, but he would apologise later.
But I do notice lately that he has been less gentlemanly compared to when we first started dating. Like previously he would always pay for our dates, and sometimes I would offer to split, but he never would let me pay. But nowadays, often he actually accepts when I offered to pay half. I mean, I know I shouldn’t expect him to pay for all our dates, but I just felt disappointed how he treated me so well before, but he changed after getting comfortable with me. I feel like those videos are making him less gentlemanly.
Idk if this is a red flag I should look out for, or should I tell him to stop watching those videos? Any girls have bfs who watches those videos?
The girl was flamed by netizens:
- If you are a true feminist, you should be happy that he finally treats you as an equal and allow you to pay for your share.
- Half the time they leave out the subtext of the interpretation of equality, which is “when convenient”
- guess feminists like her wants to be treated like a queen. just wow
- You consider yourself a feminist, which would mean that you at least agree with fighting for female rights, but then you have an issue when men’s rights activists are fighting for men’s rights? So only female rights are worth fighting for, but not men’s rights? If you think Jordan Peterson’s content is misogynistic, clearly you have not researched enough. Because rational women would actually agree with Jordan Peterson.
- What’s wrong with letting you pay half? So you’re supposed to be the progressive modern feminist woman who breaks gender stereotypes, who is supposed to be able to have the same or higher education as men, have the same career as men, earn the same pay as men, but when it comes to dates, somehow none of the progressive feministic idelogies apply and now the man is expected to assume the traditional gender role of the provider while you assume the traditional gender role of being provided for? See, this is the hypocrisy of the modern feminist woman. They want “progressiveness” only when it benefits them. They proclaim to want to break gender sterotypes and gender roles, but what they actually mean is they want to be as modern as they want but the man has to stay traditional.