Last night I watched a movie with my boyfriend and some friends. There were a couple scenes with topless women, and one of my boyfriend’s friends starts talking about how women’s used to be “pointier in the 80’s.”
Then all him and all the dudes started theorizing how this could be. They decided it was the bras. I said, “the bras were pointy, but that doesn’t change the shape of your chest. Pointy chests were just popular at the time this movie was filmed and it weren’t more common, they were just shown over other shapes because it was popular.”
This seemed unbelievable to them. The one friend starts explaining to me how “after you take your bra off if you’re wearing it all day, it kinda holds shape from the shape of the bra.” …who told him that?? I told him that I personally have themand wear a bra, when I take it off they flop right down. He let it go after a bit but it still seemed like he didn’t buy it.
I mentioned it to my boyfriend this morning and he still believed that the “shaped by your bra” theory. I asked if he was joking and he asked me if I had really looked into it. I didn’t think I needed a source for something that obvious, I also kinda thought people would just believe me as a person who has them and wears bras and therefore has more authority on the subject than them.
I ended up sending my bf an article explaining how the differences are caused by genes and hormones and weight etc. He accepted what I sent him and accepts that he was wrong but it really bothers me that I basically said “this is not how my body works” and he said “source?” He wasn’t malicious about it but it was like 3 dudes over our place doubting me like that and trying to explain why bras actually alter our bodies and no one backed me up.