How to get my bf to listen to me when we are f-ing
I (19f) for the most part enjoy sleeping with my boyfriend (20m). He knows what I like and always makes sure that I’ve had enough foreplay to get started.
However, we never have short sessions. He always drags it on for at least 2 hrs. He’s indifferent, so when we sleep together, it’s purely for my own pleasure. Though he has mentioned that he finds my reactions “entertaining” to observe.
The main issue is, that after a certain amount of time I’m oversensitive. The smallest movement feels incredibly overwhelming. It’s driven me to tears multiple times. Nevertheless, he keeps f-ing me.
Usually I try asking him to stop after I’ve finished coming in bed. But he keeps making me come until I’m overwhelmed and start crying
He doesn’t listen when I tell him he’s in too deep. He actively begins f-ing me harder if I complain. Which is incredibly discouraging.
I’ve tried talking to him about it outside of the bedroom. I’ve even used his own sensitive places (i.e his nipples) against him, to try and show him how overwhelming it can be, but he doesn’t see the issue.
According to him it’s not an issue because I’m enjoying myself. Which I am to a certain extent. But should my pleasure negate the pain I’m experiencing? He genuinely doesn’t see the issue.
I love him. I really do. So I couldn’t imagine breaking up with him over this. But I’m out of ideas. What should I do?
- You really need to think, does the fact you love him mean that he can hurt you? I’m sorry but I don’t think he loves you, I think he is getting joy out of hurting you
- “Enjoying your reactions”
This is because he is a sadist, that in its self when discussed within boundaries that both partners are happy with is fine.