My bf’s mom always asks me to put on my make up whenever we are about to go out.
I’m not ugly tbh and I’m a model. His mom is those taitai who stays in bungalow, house wife with maid and gossip is her only entertainment.
I didn’t really care too much at first until I started to see myself as “ugly”. I cover most of my mirrors with some clothes and wash my face without looking in the mirror anymore.
Things getting serious because I couldn’t stop myself to think about plastic surgery. I never really wanted to get any plastic surgery until her mom asked if I’m interested to go Korea to fix my nose.
She sent me some of those western celebrities’ pictures and offered to sponsor the fees.
My bf was aware of everything but he said his mother was just joking. But I know that his mother is serious cause she has been asking me to put on my make up every time for 2 years.
What should I do? I feel helpless.
- Your boyfriend cannot step in and open his mouth to tell his mom: “FFS mom, she is already so beautiful and does not need surgery or makeup”?
If he cant do anything like that, then he is useless. Then if you are feeling cheeky you can say his son and herself also need surgery. Lets all go together.
- The most important thing I gonna teach here you is ——you must have your own FRAME. Frame is everything.
When someone says you should make up because you are not looking decent, then you should reply to them with your own reason CONFIDENTIALLY with a SOLID attitude. It is not about logic or fact, it is about a strong personal narrative.
Never let anyone subconsciously manipulate your thoughts or change your mind because that will be no end. Your frame stops his mother politely, and her mother will respect you from the bottom of her heart.
Don’t be too soft and obedient until you are losing yourself, you are the master of your own body and world. Your frame is your identity.