Fiance’s family thinks I’m smelly because of my waitress work
Hello. Just will like to get something off my chest. I need some advice.
I am a lowly educated school dropout girl. My highest education was only secondary 2. I stopped schooling at age 14 as I have no parents for support. It’s very tiring to school and work at the same time. I am an orphan. I am 40 years old this year.
Recently I got engaged to my loving fiance in May. Our wedding will be this year end in October. The day before, I left work and headed for his house straight as it’s his brother’s wedding day. I bathed at my workplace before I went. I am working as a waitress/dishwasher. Just yesterday after the wedding, I overheard my fiance’s sister mentioning to the other family members that i am a very smelly person. She said I smelled like a pot of oil, and a lot of sauces. She said she could smell my sweat of oil from very far away. To my horror, the whole family agreed with her that I smelled.
Tonight they ask me to resign from my work as they won’t be able to take the smell if I moved in with them after I marry ( my fiance and I are waiting for our BTO to finish building). They mentioned that I smelled normal when I am not working and they want me to maintain that.
I felt very hurt deep inside and I cried though out the night. It was the first time I experienced family warmth since I knew them 5 years ago, I really want them to accept me. I can’t enter into classy jobs like administrator or engineers, those so called 8-5 or 9-6 jobs as I am lowly educated. I am also deaf in one ear.
My fiance consoled me by saying that why not I quit? He can support me by giving me money weekly. He’s a well to do man and highly educated. He mentioned he didn’t like pple insulting me. He mentioned to tolerate insults for a job, it’s not worth it.
If I resign, I won’t have enough money to save for the wedding, and I am not the type whom wish to be a full time housewife after the wedding and rely on a man everytime. I don’t like the thought of letting my fiance paid for everything, even though he doesn’t mind. He works very hard for his money.
What should I do? It’s not the first time I was being told I am smelly. I was being told to by friends and even strangers. I can’t wear perfume as I am allergic to sweet scents.