My friend just died and now her husband keeps trying to hit on me
I just found out that my friend passed away yesterday. I found out because her husband used her social media to tell me to call him.
After telling me about what happened, and me crying, he starts asking if we can be friends. I said yeah of course!
But then he tells me he’s waiting 2 months before dating again but we can still hang out. Weird but ok. Then he starts asking what he should do with the kids so we can hang out together.
I’m getting very weird vibes so i end the call. He immediately creates another social media account and adds me, then texts me his number, and is now non stop messaging me asking when we can hang out.
Am i being dramatic or is this weird? Your wife just died dude! I was friends with her for longer than you guys even knew each other.
You have two young kids. The last thing you should be doing is asking about my dating life
Netizens’ comments
- Please, trust your instincts. With that said…Grief can make people react in ways that are not their normal selves. I recently seen this first hand when my Aunt passed. I hope you two can remember her and the good times each of you had.
- He could be in some kind of shock or intense grief. Best to let him know that it’s not ok and give him space.
- I know a lot of men move on really quickly after the death of a spouse because they can’t be alone…but that’s too fast. Either he’s been scoping you out for a while or he’s struggling with the death. Those poor kids.
- just a thought… maybe hes very co-dependent and isnt handling being alone well at all. this could be a coping mechanism.
- Though I have heard that men with young kids whose wife dies usually remarry super quickly. Sometimes because they just can’t be alone or because they want a new mom for their kids. Who knows. Either way, proceed with caution.
- He’s on the hunt for wife #2/stepmom for the kids. I’ve known men like this and they are creepy and pathetic. I’ll bet you that he’s married again within 6 months.