A girl shared how her mother always puts her down whenever she is feeling confident, and hurts her feelings.
Here is the story
My mum always “needs” to put me down when I am feeling confident.
I have had hair like Cruella’s for over 6 months.
Yesterday, I was finally able to have the light part completely bleached and now it’s finally white. I was so happy with it, and right when I stepped out of the salon, an elderly man I crossed complimented me on how nice it looked.
I felt so empowered and confident. But when I got home, my mum immediately asked how much that “joke” had cost me (as if that matters, it’s my own money and I work hard for it), she also asked when I would dye it “normal” again and flat out told me she thought it was “trashy”.
I mean, there are nicer ways to say you don’t like it. Especially since she constantly displays such behaviour.
I also like to dress in 40s/50s vintage clothes, and whenever I am in “full outfit” (red lips, hat, curled hair) she always has to put me down. “Do you make such fashion choices on purpose to attract attention?” “Why do you feel a need to be so old fashioned?” “When are you finally going to buy sneakers?” Are just of the few comments she makes.
Furthermore I am trying to recover from an ED. I have listed my trigger foods and asked them not to get them in the house anymore at least until I have recovered, since seeing those foods makes me NEED to eat them and then I am lost in unhealthy eating habits for days.
Sometimes she listens, sometimes she does not and says “you can not deny us this or that just because you have an issue with it”.
She often tries to drive me towards unhealthy stuff or to divert me from the meal plan I construct with my dietician, KNOWING full well such things make me spiral.
I am just SO, SO tired of this behavior and needed to vent for a minute.