Chinese new year visitation
Seeking an advice here. Any advice is welcome. I just got married last year in November. I am an only child and before I got married, I spend CNY yearly with my mother.
Last night she told me her expectations for this coming CNY.
She told me I must eat reunion dinner with her on CNY Eve night, attend visitations with her to her siblings house on CNY 1-3.
She asked me to go back to my husband and in-laws only on day 4.
She said I am not counted as officially married in hers and her side of the family, as I never held any traditional Chinese wedding.
My husband and I only ROM, had our wedding photos taken and applied for a flat.
My husband wished to treat her an early CNY Eve lunch on actual CNY day but she denied his good will. She also said he stole her daughter.
I told my mother, i need to spare a thought for your feelings, so what about my in laws and my husband? You want my husband to turn up at gatherings as a single man?
She called me an unfilial B whom only knows how to sleep with a man. She said I cared only for strangers not her.
Does all of you have a mother like her? How do I deal with her?