A netizen shared how when he started dating his girlfriend, they were splitting bills and after 2 years, she slowly started demanding him to buy Chanel, MacBooks etc for her.
here is the story
I’ve dated this nice girl for close to 4 years before we broke it off. We were pretty stable at the start. Love was there, finances were of no issue and it was mostly us splitting bills. Were there for each other during our ups and down.
Met her parents, she met mine. Family was okay. I even went on multiple trips/holidays with her. One of which was with her family too. Even planned our future together etc.
But ever since COVID started, our relationship became really rocky. We started meeting less too. She kept comparing me to guys who can afford things for their gf etc. She occasionally sends me insta pictures of her friends have certain item etc.
Like ok, can’t you see I’m saving for our future? For a house? So that we can live comfortably instead of splurging on luxury products? She said I’ve changed and I didn’t used to be like this. Are you kidding me? Come on, when we first started dating I was a pretty average person who tried to scrimp whenever I could. You were still there for me, we gave each other support but now when I’m a little financially stable, you suddenly want all these things.
Perfume, bags, even a MacBook? Can’t you buy these for yourself? I still pretty much gave in to her. Whatever she wanted, I tried my best to deliver it. Gifted her a Chanel handbag because she wanted one for her birthday. And what did you get for my birthday? Nothing. That’s right. No dinner, no gifts, nothing but just a congratulatory text message saying I’m older.
It felt like for most of the past year I was giving instead of the one receiving. It no longer felt 50-50 but more like 80-20. This is a stark contrast to our first two years together. I’m glad I cut my losses before it’s too late. I really don’t understand what changed her throughout the years though. Is it the “don’t settle anything for less” movement? Or maybe I wasn’t romantic enough that caused her to be turned off?
Guys here should really know their worth. I think there are a few out there possibly in the situation as me. If you are able to do most of the traditional “manly” tasks: paying for stuff, fixing up things, driving and on top of that care for your gf, cook for her etc but all she has to offer is the occasional intimacy ini bed and a little love then you really should re-evaluate your relationship. Unless she’s really that good in bed that you can’t substitute it with anyone else.
Have a great valentine’s day. See you guys in the gym.
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