My partner is too nice. He is nice to me and also to everyone around him. He is someone that is easily convinced by anyone and easy to be taken advantage of.
So at his workplace, coworkers especially female coworkers like to approach him for help and they like to make small requests like helping them to run errands, takeaway breakfast for them, driving them out for lunch when there are eating places at walkable distance and sometimes dropping them home since it is along the way etc.
I don’t want to be the bad person and ask him to stop helping people.
As his girlfriend, my concern here is that he can’t say no and his female coworkers are taking advantage of that. Anyone can influence his opinions.
I have tried talking through this with him and usually his reply will be like “I don’t see any issue in this” and says that’s who he is. We will end up in small arguments because of this.
Due to these small arguments, he chose to “help” them out “behind my back” instead e.g. bringing them out for lunch or fetching them home and this makes me more annoyed because he don’t get my point.
I know that he is trying to save some petrol money too so we are meeting up lesser so that he can “save” up on his petrol money.
Yet, he won’t hesitate to bring his female coworkers out for lunch when they requested for it or he will drop them off to their houses directly after work dinner.
All these requests are happening on a very frequent basis. He mentioned that he don’t want to let me know because he wants to avoid these “stupid” arguments.
Also, I don’t feel like he prioritizes me more than them. Make it clear first that I don’t want him to stop being friends with them.
I feel like being his girlfriend just being another one of his coworkers/friends because seems like whatever he is doing for his female coworkers are the same as towards me.
So is it wrong for me to feel annoyed? And to all the females, can you accept your partner being such a pushover/people-pleaser and also often putting his females coworkers/friends’ needs first?