Date dresses inappropriately.
Casually seeing this older lady online. Each time she dresses very little. Initially it don’t bother me. She often complain that sg weather is hot so she prefers to not be “covered in rugs”.
Sometimes I noticed people will look at her, maybe because of how little she wore. Sometimes I am also distracted as it was to the point of vulgar. .She’s not that bad as a person to talk to but I wouldn’t say that she’s pretty. I can tell she loves to dress up and spends a lot of money on grooming. She’s not in a good shape as she doesn’t exercise or seem to take care of her health and is in her 40s. I’m in the personal grooming business so I noticed these things.
Chemistry wise I think we are ok? We don’t reply quickly to each other and she seems fine with it. She’s a foodie like me so we talk about food often. She doesn’t seem to mind that I’ve not mentioned her to my friends and family. We never really established our relationship anyway.
I find myself more willing to talk to her online than meeting her in person. I like her wit and humor. But the moment we meet, it just doesn’t feel the same. I don’t know how to describe it. She dresses in a way that you wouldn’t want to be seen with her by friends?
I know it’s not my business what she wears. But would it be rude of me to ask her to cover up herself a bit more when we meet? How do I put it diplomatically? I would like to respect her more, but I find that I can’t help but judge her for her dressing. She wears shorts so short that it exposed her butt cheeks and cellulite. She doesn’t care that her bra straps or bra is showing out on her low cut tops. I suspect mentality wise, she’s still stuck in her 20s. Not noticing that it was 20 years ago.