A girl shared how she is dating her boyfriend who doesn’t trust her and that they have been breaking up and patching back together multiple times.
Here is the story:
“Sorry this is gonna be quite long. I need some advice and needed some ranting.
So i have this bf, we met on dating apps and we’re together for 2 years now. I have been staying with him at his place ever since. We have been breaking up and patching multiple of times, and his problem is that he got trust issue with me, so everywhere i go i have to take photo for him.(with who, where i am at), live location, He will also have my whatsapp web on his phone. Mainly because when we “break up” i would download dating apps and use it thinking that we “break” and could never patch back again every single time. I did meet new people from the datings apps here n there. But JUST MAINLY to eat, nothing else i swear on my life. But my bf he don’t believe, therefore he thinks that I cheated on him etc etc. In between those “break n patch” i’ve move back to my own place.
But now is that i’ve given birth to a baby with him. Things still happen.
Firstly, his house is like a zoo. There’s BIRDS, FISH and DOGS.
The hygiene isn’t there at the first place. Well when you think thats maybe ok. His dogs (2 dogs) are not properly trained. They pee and shit everywhere in the living room. The birds take over the balcony and kitchen. Could you imagine cooking with the birds? Everything in the kitchen is covered with cling wrap all etc. And cmon how worst could it be right? THE ONLY WINDOW IS AT THE BALCONY. Can you imagine the smell?
Before i even give birth i’m staying in his room all day like IMH patient. Now my baby do basically the same things as me. WAIT before yall say what why didn’t i talk to him all. I SPOKE TO HIM BEFORE. His dogs very smelly, train his dogs all wait baby come out already whr to learn to crawl walk all. I told him i wanna move away or at least get a rental or sm shit.
He told me. “Now i don’t have the money. I also going enlist already. Cnnt wait meh?” Ya enlist. He’s 23. Say he don’t have the time to shower his dogs all come back take care baby. Guess what. Dogs belongs to him his but his mom taking care for him buying food for the dogs all. Wow. Nvm i told him i’ll go find jobs, there’s people willing to help me take care baby. He say he don’t trust me therefore i’m still here in his house. Waiting for him to bring back money when he didn’t even have the responsibility, he work as delivery and only 4hr a day.
I tried moved away, but he ended up threatening me. He going suicide all, baby is his everything (his family rs not good), I don’t want my baby noy being able to see his father. At that point of time, i still do have feelings for him and i don’t wanna lose him so i went back. but when i’m preg he kept claiming that baby not his all. FORCED me to abort, didn’t really contributed when i’m preg. But wants everything.
Secondly, his mom has the very traditional thinking. So everything that i do is WRONG TO HER. I’m now a shm. I gave my baby pacifier, his mom started nagging “why give pacifier, now baby so hard to take care. Last time i could just hug her and she’ll sleep.”
Cmon, your THIS SON DIDN’T YOU FEED HIM PACIFIER TOO? YOU’RE THE ONE TAKING CARE OR ME. Also she say don’t speak things about baby infront of baby. Like for example “baby very cute, she very guai, her hand very small.” HIS MOM ownself say those infront of my BABY.
I mean this is my baby, i know my baby best and his mom would wants baby to sleep with her sometimes, then when baby gets fussy, she’ll starts to indirectly says me.
“Why give pacifier, see drop cry drop cry. This baby very hard to take care, keep crying. Baby dw sleep i wan to sleep.”
All nvm, i hand washed my clothes and baby’s. Washing machine spoilt. When i see she’s not drying any clothes. I went to soak my clothes going wash the next day, but instead. She wash her bedsheet and dry it. Till now my clothes has been soaking there for 4 days. I have been re-wearing my clothes for past 3 days.
Thirdly, my bf, me and baby went out on xmas day to buy all of ours cny clothes, cause he going ns right. Guess what, he got me a shirt, i just take one from the shelves cause he were bout to pay for the clothes. If i didn’t take any, he wouldn’t probably rmb getting for me. He spents HOURS LOOKING at his clothes and baby’s but mine?
P.s. he didn’t give me any money, i’ve talk to him before MANY times.
The money that i’ve earned when i’m preg is all used up. Buying baby’s crib all, diaper all. I tried getting from other’s but his mom said very ‘pangtan’ but them taking it from his relative?!?? So? I really don’t get it, but i couldn’t say anything. At least baby could still have it.
I’m slowly getting really exhausted, mentally tired, i really don’t know what to do. For your information, i’ve been disowned by my own mom because of him. He’s been sending message to my mom like “How do you teach your daughter to become a slut.”
And messages to me always “No wonder your father deserve to die because of you.” My father passed way before i met him. I couldn’t complete my studies and my dreams, i’ve got no one left. Friends all drifted because of him ya.
For my baby, i really need some help i guess? I really don’t know what to do anymore…
Thanks for listening to my story “
Editor’s note: Wow how did you even get together with him in the first place… This guy is a villain…