My fiancee and partner of 9 years (27f) cheated on me (28m)
This is a post more so to vent my frustration than anything else. I found out my fiancee of 9 years has been cheating on me for the last 3 months and iv no idea what to do… we also have a 1 year old son together.
I was using an old phone of hers because mines wasn’t working and a load of notifications came through on Instagram dms from a guy she work with, and the messages were saying what they would do to each other.
Wanting to confirm my thought rightly or wrongly while I was feeding our son during the night I went through her phone and seen intimate details of stuff they have done when and where.
For past 3 months I have basically been a single parent as she’s been ‘working late’ and isnt back untill iv put him to bed. I have sent it to myself as proof and will confront her tonight.
What am I meant to do. We were due to get married in August our son has just turned 1 year old 2 weeks ago.
My head is all over the place as I had a deadbeat parent. It isn’t in myself to leave my son with someone who clearly doenst care about us as a family. I’m just … I’m just hurt.
Netizens’ comments
- First, thank your lucky stars that you found out before you got married.
Second, I don’t care how convinced you are that he’s yours or how much he looks like you, get a damn test. My dad’s ex-wife’s bastard looked exactly like him and my dad paid 18 years of child support for a kid that wasn’t his.
Third, TEXT YOURSELF ALL THE EVIDENCE AND TEXT IT TO PEOPLE YOU TRUST. Do this asap because it’s unlikely she’ll just leave all the evidence there.
Finally, do what you can to get out. - I couldn’t even forgive a one night thing to be honest, so there would be no chance of forgiving a 3 month affair. I’m really sorry, but do you want to live in doubt for the rest of your life. It’s a horrible thing to do, especially when you have a young son. Shame on her. No one deserves to be treated like that.