[31M][30F] Best friend slept with ex-girlfriend
I am in a bit of conundrum, I broke up with my gf about a year ago and learned that my best friend slept with her 3 months after our break up. Neither of them told me about it, this was brought up to me a by a mutual friend.
I confronted my friend about it and he confirmed. He didnt apologize but said he couldnt control himself and felt guilty about it so didnt talk to me about it.
I find myself unable to accept his apology, however we have been friends for 12 years. I feel its hard to make friends like that again, but at the same time I feel that out of all the girls in the world why did he had to choose her for a hook up.
Should I still continue to be friends with this person, or it would be better to cut him off altogether for life?
- Cut him off. Anyone who betrays you this badly will likely do it again. Being unable to control yourself is the dumbest excuse I’ve ever heard…
- I realize making good friends is hard, but he wasn’t being a good friend, and he knew it which is why he didn’t tell you about it. If your 12 year friendship was that important he would have respected it rather than jumping into bed with your ex right after your breakup. Yeesh.
- the fact that he left me in the dark would probably have hurt more, since she was no longer my girlfriend. I don’t like the idea of being the only one walking around, not in the know…
I dont know if I’d have to completely cut him off, but he definitely sounds like an associate more than a friend.