I fell in love with a married colleague, but I have a gf.
To be clear, I didn’t know she was married at first. We are from the same department but don’t have any mutual projects or friends, so we never got to interact before.
Last month, we went on a company retreat and happened to be in the same grouping. She seemed very smart and cheerful to me, and I found her attractive.
At first I thought it was a silly crush that would pass, so I didn’t think much about it.
At night there would be drinking parties in the hotel, so on the last night we were in the same room with a bunch of other people. Somehow we ended up chatting at the balcony about life, and I felt the spark very strongly. We didn’t do anything but I felt this strong urge to kiss her, and I felt bad for thinking that way because I have a gf. I had to force myself to physically get away from her because I was afraid of doing something I will regret.
It’s been a month since then, and I only found out she’s married after stalking her social media. I know its bad for me to feel this way about her, but I really can’t help myself. I tried to avoid her in the office but I also cant see anyone but her.
I know this is completely unfair to my gf, but ever since the retreat I don’t have much feelings for my gf anymore.
Here are what netizens think:
- Your gf is better off single than to be stuck with a guy who has no feelings for her anymore. However, love is a decision and commitment, not merely a feeling. Therefore, you can also take the time while you’re single to learn how to be focused on just one. Good luck
- I mean, if you know that you don’t have feelings for your girlfriend anymore then you should just end the relationship. Not fair to her, and no point torturing yourself either.
- Rule #1 of being in a relationship is to keep a distance from the opposite gender even though she’s a co worker.