Need advice: gf has had poop on underwear multiple times
I’ve been with my girlfriend since the holidays and we recently started getting intimate. The first time we did it I noticed she had a lot of poop stains on her thong strap. It wasn’t fresh, but rather old poop stains. I was grossed out but put it out of my mind and we just banged. It was heat of the moment so I gave her the benefit of the doubt and figured because she wasn’t expecting us to get intimate, she didn’t feel the need to be super clean.
Since then we’ve slept together about 10 times and most of the time it’s been the same thing – poop stains on her various underwear. I’ve gotten used to it and try not to look yet I always do.
Last night was different. She took off her thong and the smell was atrocious. This time it wasn’t poop stains but rather wet fresh poop on her thong. I held my breath and we finished really fast.
She could tell things were different and she asked me ‘what’s wrong?’ I didn’t have the heart to mention the poop thing so I told her it was a long day and I’m just exhausted.
If this was a one-off isolated thing then whatever. But poop stains most of the time and now fresh wet poop is too much. I don’t know how to bring this up without offending her.
(And no, this isn’t a post about being grossed out that women take poop or fart. And also, these are not spotting stains from her period. These are straight up poop stains/wet poop. I’m just trying to figure out how to bring up a topic that most people, especially women, would be grossed out by.)