So I (18M) lost my virginity with my girlfriend (19F) of 3 months but there were some problems
So i (18M) have been with this girl (19F) for 3 months now, and 3 days ago we finally did it, it was the first time for the both of us, not to go into all the tiny details but we ended up doing it for about 40min, im not sure whether to be impressed by myself or concerned because i just couldnt finish
its not that i wasnt excited, but there were some slight technical problems during the beginning and i kept getting stressed out or nervous
and yesterday we almost did it for an hour and a half to no avail. Im just down cause i dont know whats happening and because she will think that its her fault or something.
Is there anything i can do for this to not happen again, maybe spice things up?
Netizens’ comments
- You don’t need to spice things up, you were nervous and trying to figure it all out that’s so normal! It actually sounds like you guys did a great job for your first time
- My suggestion would be to experiment more with foreplay. Find out what you each like and dislike and progress from there. Not only will you both become more comfortable but you’ll also relax more which in turn will make it easier for both of you to enjoy it. Stress and being nervous play a big role in your ability to climax.
- It happens to the best of us. Probably just the nerves. I couldnt finish with my girlfriend either when we first did it. I was so focused on what she was thinking of me (it was the first time she saw me completely naked) and if she thought things felt good, and making sure i was feeling good that i couldnt quite fit getting off in there. We had a good time regardless and im a lot more confident now. Just communicate things with her im sure shell understand.
- Congrats ! Just communicate with her that you are just worried or nervous and getting used to sex, if the problem stays for longer than a couple weeks maybe consider visiting a doctor but really it’s probably just nerves. Tell her that you are enjoying it even if you can’t finish and make sure that you take care of her needs as well.