A guy shared how he is derivatively hopeless in love and with girls, and that there is always someone better than me who “steals” his girl because of their superior brawn, humour, looks and etc.
He shared that he is not really a funny guy so he read a lot of books and practiced with his friends, trying to “up” his humour.
He shared how he met a girl that he likes, but she has another admirer who hates him and sabotaged his chances with her during a group project.
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Hi, how do girls choose when there are so many guys chasing you? Every time I try to chase a girl, there are at least 2 other guys trying to do the same thing. I have tried my best so far and have constantly failed.
I feel that there is always someone better than me. This could be in terms of looks, grades, smartness, humor, brawn, etc. Initially, I tried being myself but it clearly did not work. I don’t mind working on myself but I am not sure which part to focus on.
I used to be a sports person and was representing for my school during JC. I would say it is kind of one of my biggest strength or asset. I tried to date to this girl who loves sports during JC. We hit off really well so naturally, I thought I had a chance. Well, she ended up going out with a national athlete. How in the world can I compete with that?
I am not really a funny guy so I thought maybe I can “up” my humor skills. I read a lot of books, practiced with friends and tried to get tips from my funny friends. I cannot do all kinds of humor because it is just too difficult so I specialized in a few types of humor. It did work well with this girl. I mean she was laughing her ass off. We did get close. I mean she was holding hands me which was the first time in my LIFE! She did say she was interested in me. Long story short, she met someone else who was extremely smart and ended up being with him. I mean that guy was so smart that everyone knew he is going to have a extremely good career ahead of him.
My most recent attempt was the most depressing one. I met this girl and guy whom I met during a gathering. It was the first time the three of us met each other. I really felt a strong connection with this girl and from the way we interacted, I really thought that this could go somewhere.
The guy was also interested in her but it was the first time that we were more or less equal. The guy did not have anything special and there was no particular area that he was better than me. We were quite similar. I really thought that I had a decent chance this time.
All I can say was that I was competing with this guy like crazy and it was probably the most intense one so far. That guy clearly hated me. He treated me as if I was his mortal enemy. He even tried to sabotage me. I have never seen anyone doing that before in my life even in my previous attempts.
The best part was that all three of us started to hang out together everyday. We took the same modules and picked the same classes/tutorials. Imagine, the girl of your dreams smiling on your right and the guy who equates you to the devil or something giving you the death stare on your left for the whole day! It was insane!
The deciding factor was a single class project. I was sick on the day that prof asked them to split into groups. Bloody $#$@er lied to everyone that I wanted to join another team so I got left out. Since the project was extremely big and time-consuming, they practically got to spend a lot more time together. I did still try to chase her but I could feel that I was fighting a losing battle. Then, that day came. They told me that they were official. That $#$@er was practically grinning when they told me the news. It was extremely depressing.
After that, I made excuses and tried to avoid hanging out with them. I was a third wheel and he would purpose do things to piss me off. He would kiss her or do other more extreme PDA in front of me. She kept on insisting that we should hang out together. I purposely joined a time-consuming CCA and hanged out with the people there just so that I can give her an excuse for spending less time with them. I hated the CCA and the group there but I stuck around. When I walk through the corridors, I try to check if they are there before walking.
I think I am over it now. It took a long long long time but I am feeling a lot better now.Now, I want to move on and find someone else to be with. Any help would be appreciated.
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