I have a very good friend whom i have met during my uni days who is a year junior from me. During uni we study together, sometimes my friend would cook for me during my exam week, we travelled places together, we work really well as a team during sports.
After graduating uni, i got an offer to work in a private company, however my friend did not get an offer and was jobless for 6months and keep asking me to check if my company would like to hire him too.
However there were no vacancy in our company.
So i suggested my friend to join venture as partners to start a business together. I listed my offers and shared my ideas. My friend was very interested and agreed to our business start up. At first, my friend did the part to helped me look up on locations and price comparison for the business. I have been busy for awhile with my current work at hand but will do some research during free hour. Soon after a month from our discussion. My friend had already started his own business with my ideas without informing me.
These were exactly his words, ” Not sure if i got tell you this, i already started renovation and plan to open my business in a few weeks time.”
He acted nonchalant, no apologies ,never say he doesnt want to partner anymore and still can continue to take food from my fridge while telling me that with his back facing me.
This hurt me really bad. I think i would feel better if he had told me earlier during our discussion that he would not like to partner with me. And not after he had started renovation and planning to open the business in a few weeks time. It felt like being stab at the back.
My friend still message me occasionally to ask me regarding things in the business field and it irk me. I was thinking if i should just ignore this person despite had really good past time together as friends? I need some advice. Should i keep a distance and avoid all messages or should i continue to be a friend?
Later did i noticed that this friend only contact me for ideas, for informations and like to keep things as a secret.
I can’t get a closure for this incident and it still gets me despite all this happened during pre-covid time. When i chose to ignore the messages, i feel bad. But when i replied, my friend got his answer and information and will ignore me without replying a thanks or ok.
Should i just break all ties with this person and move on? Or should i forgive this person and mend my own injuries with time? Any good advises?