Feels illegal asking for my own money back
A friend in our common clique refuses to pay us back his share of the bill everytime we head out.
When reminded, he explains that he is ‘tight these days’ and will transfer us asap, however, it goes on for months and many of us don’t get our money back.
It’s not that we are unsympathetic towards his financial difficulties, but this friend seems to be clearly living beyond his means and we have to foot the bill for his indulgence.
For some context, this friend orders alcohol when the rest of us don’t, leading to his share of the bill becoming the largest.
When it’s time to get the bill, he magically disappears to the washroom.
We tagged him in the group all the time and pm him individually well but he just replies ‘ok will inform when i tsf’ or ‘am tight now’
I sympathise with people who can’t afford their meals but to order beyond their means… that’s not it man. Growing up I didn’t have a lot of pocket money to go out with friends. I will try to order within my means even in a group setting. It’s basic curtesy to pay back, even if it’s your closest group of friends. I think just split the bill whenever you hang out with him. Like when he goes to the wash room, get the bill and pay individually. So when he’s back, he will have to deal with his own bills. He is obviously overstepping here.