Accidentally hurt my GF in bed and need help.
So I accidentally hurt my GF while we were f-ing. She has a tear in her vag. I feel really terrible right now and I have no idea what to do.
It was both our first times doing PIV. We have done oral and non-PIV before without issues. I have been able to put two fingers inside of her without her experiencing any pain and also make her finish.
So this time we decided to try PIV. We did a decent bit of foreplay, some finger and oral. She seemed super wet. However on this instance I did not get her to finish (I don’t think she wanted me to + shes usually sensitive after and does not want me to touch her).
Maybe that was really stupid of me. But idk she asked me to try PIV before we got to the point where she finishes.
She did seem super wet however, and I could easily slide fingers inside of her. We used a ton of lube like I was literally dripping with lube, and the sheets were very soaked with lube it was all over the place.
She guided me in, and was in control a lot overall. I was very careful to go extremely slow. I was like halfway in (Im 6 inches, so that’s 3 inches) and thrusting very slowly like extremely slow.
I honestly felt no resistance, like it felt like crazy smooth, so I def did not force anything in suddenly.
She seemed in pain but only slightly, like her eyes were closed. I asked if she was okay liked every 20 secs and she said yes.
After a few mins we took a break and changed the angle a bit because it was hurting her. We were in missionary and she wanted me to go more “up”. After a few more mins we decided to stop.
She did not seem super in pain during but later told me it hurt a lot. There was also a decent bit of blood, which neither of us noticed at first but only after we stopped. We thought it was just normal for first time.
Anyway so turns out she has a perineal tear in her vag which will takes a few weeks to heal. I am honestly feeling so bad rn, I have no idea what happened.
I feel terrible. I feel really bad that I ruined her/our first time and also hurt her so bad. I have of course apologized but honestly not sure what else I should do.
I would appreciate any advice and also any insight into why this may have happened because we did foreplay, used a lot of lube, and went very slow.