Im 19 have a roommate “Kayla” of the same age, we have been roommates for almost 1 year. we have always had this shared refrigerator situation going on where we alternate every week or two on who buys the groceries, cleaning supplies, etc. But we don’t cook for each other. (very important to the story)
Well, 6months ago Kayla got a boyfriend, “Jack” (21m) who has been spending a lot of time in our flat. He would leave his mess every and when I say everywhere I really mean it. He would leave his clothes on the bathroom floor and living room floor, but the biggest issue was he would eat everything, even the things that were strictly mine i.e leftover takeout, dinners that I cooked for myself.
I’ve talked with my roommate about this multiple times and she said she would talk to him but it doesn’t really seem like she even tries to talk to him. which seems like she is enabling him to continue this behavior.
Here’s where the incident happened. Two nights ago I made myself some dinner, I was following this recipe and I was making fried chicken that had some sort of sauce that contained honey in it. ( also very important to the story). Neither I nor my roommate has any sort of allergy so I didn’t say anything to her when I made it or when I put my leftovers in Tupperware and in the fridge.
well, yesterday I got back home from work, and my roommate wasn’t home. I didn’t question it and moved on with my day. A few hours later I heard the front door open, and a few moments later my roommate enters my room and just starts yelling at me say I could’ve killed her boyfriend and how I am irresponsible, and how dare I put my food in the fridge unlabeled when her boyfriend is allergic to honey. But here’s the thing I didn’t know he was allergic to honey.
I tried explaining to her that I simply didn’t know of her boyfriend’s allergy and he should’ve never been touching my food knowing he has an allergy and could potentially be put himself in harm’s way, which he did in this situation. I also mentioned that I told her to tell him not to touch my food and she blew up on me even more saying that I am dismissing her feelings and I mentioned that she’s been dismissing mine ever since he got here. we ended the argument with me yelling at her that I’m not responsible for his allergies and she should’ve never brought him around the apartment.
I told my friend about what happened and she told that even though he was in the wrong for basically stealing my food, I should’ve never said that to my roommate because she was in a stressful situation where a loved one could’ve died now I feel bad and think I might’ve been in the wrong.
my fault?
Here is what netizens think:
- The bf own fault . If the bf is allergic, he should not eat anything without knowing what’s in. I would label everything I make as containing honey. His fault if he gets sick.
- He doesn’t know the ingredients yet he felt comfortable eating it. This is not your fault, it’s clearly his.
- It does not matter what his reasons are, or her reasons. He’s there, and he’s not supposed to be. Tell her they need to find a sublet roommate for you, who is acceptable to you, and get their own place. If I was your landlord, I’d be kicking him out.