Hi, I am in a weird situation. I like helping people and do a lot of volunteering work on the side. I don’t like to hurt people.
However, I like girls who are not so nice. Ok, I dont refer to girls who are abusing or throwing plates at people. These are girls are not evil but at the same time, they arent angels either. They are usually selfish and they dress like they going to party after class everyday. They dont actually care about other people but they dont go out of their way to hurt them either.
On the other hand, I dont actually feel attracted to girls who are caring, you know the ones that do volunteering or stay back to help other people after class.
Of course, being the kind guy I am, the badass girls dont actually find me attractive. I am a kind, emphathetic and caring person which they dont find attractive (I know I repeated the sentence). They seem to go for the badass versions, like the guy versions of themselves, you know the selfish and sometimes even toxic kind.
The kind and caring girls are a 50 50. Some of them go for the kind guys whereas some go for the badass guys.
None of these makes any sense to me.
Also, can I do something to be more attractive to badass girls without losing my caring qualities?
PS: I am gyming regularly, have a hobby of painting and my grades are above average. I have small grp of friends but they are mostly similar kind of volunteery people. (Most of them get caring type gfs so I am the weirdo).
Here are what netizens think:
- Easy. The type you described sounds like most local influencers. Just follow them on social media and try your luck from there. Tip: most party girls or badass girls need wingmen for times when their badass boyfriends throw them aside for other more badass girls, this is where you come in handy. You won’t lose your caring qualities, in fact, this is the best time to show them, AND you also stand a chance of getting into their good books (or something else).
- Be yourself lor. Sure got this kind of girl who wants someone nicer. Usually these girls (combined with their girlfriends) can sniff out a fake instantly anyway
- Trust me, you won’t want to be a saint and hangout too long (read- marry) them. Speaking from being a spectator of my good friend’s implosion