I would rather be alone.
I’m not really sure what kind of advice im looking for. I feel like my partner and I are very incompatible in bed. It wasn’t apparent immediately, it only became an issue about 6 months in (together ~1.5 years). Before that things were great. Since then it feels like my partner has almost no libido. We’ve sat down together and discussed this on multiple occasions, and every time the conversations felt very productive and left us optimistic about being able to solve this problem. But nothing changes. I know it isn’t my partner’s fault.
I love my partner with all my heart, but I find myself having to create distance for my own mental health. When I spend a lot of time being very close and affectionate with them, I start desiring intimacy. It makes me want to make love to my partner.
They almost never share that feeling and It hurts. I feel like by distancing myself, and being less affectionate it helps to eliminate any kind of expectation/feelings of disappointment. I hate it. But It feels better than having to suppress these natural urges that I have.
My partner is very touchy, very affectionate, always wanting to cuddle, very vocal about how in love they are, very frequently discussing how much they wish we’d get married.
I feel like everything about our relationship is perfect except for this (common thing, im sure). I’m crazy in love with them but I also know staying in a relationship with someone im not compatible with is setting myself up for unhappiness.
I’m tired of having the same conversations repeatedly. I almost feel like a deviant having to explain how important intimacy apparently is to me. I just feel very confused, frustrated and helpless.
Thanks for reading.