I (25M) am finding it harder and harder to look at my fiance(25F) because of her weight gain
I dont really know how else to say it but over the past couple of years my fiance has been gaining weight at what seems to be a pretty quick rate and its been bothering me for a while.
She tells me somewhat frequently that when she orders food to her office she’s eating really healthy foods like smoothies, poke bowls, and salads.
And she says when she weighs herself that she fluctuates but it’s overall downwards.
But I just can’t believe her when she makes jokes about her fupa or when I look at her stomach going out farther then her chest.
I can’t help but to stare and I don’t even think “oh that’s disgusting” or “she’s really gross” just a feeling of disappointment.
She’s very sensitive but I don’t want these feeling to develop into resentment about it or anger at her. I love her dearly and while I’m not the picture of fitness and health, but I’m at least trying and working really hard to improve my own body.
I’ve been losing weight steadily of the past month+ and I’ve lost a lot of weight and I feel really good. But she doesn’t want to participate or try any of the recipes I want to cook. She doesn’t want to walk with me either or do anything physical really. It’s excuse after excuse.
I know it’s gonna hurt her feelings if I bring it up and she’s going to feel really ugly and gross and think that I don’t find her attractive at all.
I still think she’s beautiful, sweet, kind, and very physically attractive, but if I don’t say anything now about her weight and physical appearance I’m worried about her health and well being.
So I guess my main question is, is there a way I can gently bring this up and still help her understand how I feel?
If there’s any questions about what might help you better understand the situation I’d be more than happy to answer as best I can. Thank you