My (22M) gf (22F) has gained a lot of weight and I no longer am attracted to her.
My girlfriend over the past 3 or so years has gained around 30kg in said timespan. This may not sound like a lot but considering she is short it definitely looks like a lot and has all went to her gut and face.
I have always been a pretty fit guy, not really that into eating junk food, preferring more healthy or at least food that isn’t terrible for you, her on the other hand pretty much exclusively eats snack food like chips and other junk, or greasy fried foods.
I’ve attempted to tell her not to eat as much junk and even tried to set her up on a meal plan of foods that she likes but are better for her to help her, but after a little while she just goes back to eating junk.
She is very much aware that I don’t like the way that her body looks currently and says that she’ll try to eat a bit healthier and even work out to elevate it but she never sticks to it.
Her mother, father and grandfather all have diabetes and are severely overweight and I am very worried that if she keeps up like this she will as well.
Whenever we first started dating around 5 years ago she was much thinner and I was very attracted to her, she was a cheerleader.
Now I am no longer attracted to her and don’t see myself being again if she does not lose weight. To make this worse I work at and work out at a gym and see many girls with really nice bodies and it makes me want her to look like them.
Any advice?
Netizens’ comments
- Don’t try to change people. The conditional love, that’s not the basis of any good relationship. If you’ve fallen out of love with her, just call it quits.
It may hurt her at first, but then she can maybe date someone who loves her for all of who she is at any size. I think she deserves that. - Leave her. I’m just being honest. I think you’re too young to work through it. If you love her and want to be with her then work through it. Just know the older you get the less looks matter. Those things fade but you’re so young and that’s so into the future it’s hard to see
- It may be that the relationship is fading and the spark with it. If she changed this then some other thing about her might become an issue.