Girl I’m seeing likes married men
I’ve been seeing this girl for the past 6 months. I think she’s a nice person and we have good chemistry and I am very attracted to her. I want to take things slow because I am very interested in her. I come from a broken family so I also want to make sure we are compatible before getting serious.
We are not teenagers anymore so I understand that she’s been in relationships before me. She did not talk much about her past but recently she revealed 2 of her previous bfs were actually married men.
I was kind of taken aback by this information. I try to be objective and asked her how did she get into it and how did it end. Long story short, I didn’t like her answers.
In summary she was interested in them while knowing they are married. She also made the first move. The relationships ended because the affairs were exposed. She was dumped.
I sensed a hint of triumph when she was describing the relationships.
I grew up watching my father cheating and abandoning us. So I am rather triggered to hear her reveal that she had been the other woman. Not once but twice. A part of me is telling me this is not going to work. Another part of me is telling me I should give her a chance.
She say she will not do such things again because it was mental torture and she has grown out of it. She wants to have an open and honest relationship from now on.
Should I continue to see her? Do people really change? I don’t want to invest and get hurt later on. Before knowing this I actually think she could be the one. Now I feel lost.