Men, how do you feel about other women when you’re in a relationship?
I’ve hit a wall with my bf of 3 months and I need your perspective if this is how truly all man feel. And from women, if you would be comfortable with hearing those things from your own boyfriends.
It started from my boyfriend not giving me compliments, while he spoke about his coworker “it’s not like she isn’t attractive” to “what I meant is she’s beautiful”. For me this crossed a line and the more we talked, the worse it got.
We’ve been having conversations the last days with him trying to explain what he actually meant. The things he’s said so far are:
“I’m a man, so I feel attraction to other women. There’s always some slight interest towards other women, I will always want to sleep with them.”
He proceeded to explain that when he sees attractive women he “sees the potential of them as a girlfriend, but now that he has me he doesn’t have to worry about it.”
My stomach is in a knot, I feel really uncomfortable and think that this is really wrong, but I’m unable to articulate it myself why. I can recognise other men being good looking, but when I’m in a relationship I don’t see other good looking men as “potential boyfriends if I was single”. I don’t feel “attraction” or have “interest” in them.
He kept trying to explain and said there’s always a “urge” to other women. When he asked me how I view good looking people, I said I see that they are good looking but that’s it. I just see people. He said I’m “just stopping my thoughts before exploring them”.
Can you please give me an outside perspective, I feel like this is massively wrong but I’m unable to articulate my position better.