GUY TRIES ONLINE DATING BUT GIRLS TELL HIM: “I THINK WE JUST STAY FRIENDS”

A guy shared how he tried online dating and the girls used to tell him “thanks for the date, it’s best if we just stay as friends”.

He then put all the blame on himself as he felt like he wasn’t good enough. However, he met another girl and used the same line on her.

Here is the story:

“When I first started online dating, I used to take things very seriously, expecting things to go as smoothly as I thought, and I really did give my 100% to ensure my dates were happy.

Whenever my dates said things like “you’re great, but I guess things don’t really work out for us” or “thanks for the date, I appreciate everything, but I guess it’s best if we just stay as friends”, I tend to feel disappointed and kept putting all the blame on myself for not being good enough for them.

After about 2 years of experience, I learnt a lot and eventually got into 2 relationships.

Recently I just broke up, and I simply just don’t have that sort of enthusiasm that I had before. I either talked to new girls that matched me for a few days and ignored their messages completely.

I managed to click pretty with a girl that I can have endless conversations with, and I could see her as a potential girlfriend as well, but I think I did something very wrong.

She actually just started using dating apps recently and only managed to meet a few guys, but none of them are suitable for her, so she is quite nervous to meet me, as she doesn’t want her 2021 to end unhappily.

As a guy who went through this, I just told her “that’s alright la, I also don’t really meet you to be your potential boyfriend, it’s just a casual meet-up, if things don’t go well, let’s think positively and we can still be friends”.

I think I’ve made a big mistake by saying this, though she didn’t respond negatively towards what I said.

She was just like oh…alright then, so you’re just seeing me as a friend? So guys, am I really wrong for saying such thing to her?

I mean I also wish I can avoid disappointment or at least don’t feel as hurtful as before, so it’s not wrong to say that to her right?”

Editor’s note: If you look on the bright side, at least you’re being honest and who knows? Maybe she’d like the honesty.