I want to break up with my amazing girlfriend because her 2 children hate my guts despite her being a great match for me
About 7months ago, I (32M) met my girlfriend (35F) through mutual friends of ours. We started off dating casually and we quickly realized that we were a great match for each other. The only big concern I had was that she had 2 children (11F and 13M) from her previous marriage and that I would be expected to be financially responsible for them in the future if we continued. When I brought this up to her, she told me that she would never ask me to support her financially when it comes to her kids and that she would be ok with having a prenup if we ever ended up getting married.
I was raised by my stepmother myself so I didn’t want to be a hypocrite about this and give her an honest chance. For the first five months, I didn’t meet her children. These 5 months dating were great and she showed me how much of a loving and caring person she was. We loved spending time together, going out together and she always loved showing off her cooking skills by making me dinner every time we got together at my house. She also always helped cleaning when she would stay at mine and respected my boundaries. So all in all, she seemed like a great partner to build a future with together.
But that all changed when I met her children 5 months into dating her. From the first moment I met them, her children didn’t hide the fact that they despised me. My gf told me that this would quickly change because I’m the first person she has been with since her divorce 4 years ago. She told that she would talk to them about me and that they just needed to get used to me and to just give it some time.
But that was completely not what happened. Every time I would come over to her apartment I would get cussed out by her son. Her daughter wouldn’t even acknowledge my existence when I came around. This would often lead to fights between her and her children to the point I sometimes just left. This has been going on for the past 2 months and this has definitely taken a toll on our relationship to the point that I am realizing that this isn’t the right relationship for me. Because the last thing I want to do, is spend the rest of my life with my partner and constantly have her children around who despise me and would ruin my peace. I have tried to be friendly with her kids but that has only lead to misery.
I definitely don’t blame anything on her or her kids but I can’t go on like this. I feel like I have given the relationship an honest chance and it just didn’t work out. I don’t regret dating her at all because I have definitely had my fun with her, we just can’t make it work with the whole package so it’s better to go our seperate ways.
I just feel enourmous guilt towards my gf because she never really did anything wrong and she doesn’t deserve this. I want to make this break up as clean as possible and the last thing I want to do is hurt her. How do you guy think I should approach the break up with her without hurting her?
And for the people who are going to tell me that I should’ve never dated her because I can’t take on the whole package. You are right and that’s why I’m never going to date a woman with chidlren again in the future.