A girl shared how her boyfriend told her that he has genital herpes (which the girl accepts him for it), but added that if she was the one who has it, he would leave her.
Here is the story:
“My boyfriend came forward to tell me he has genital herpes. As soon as he told me this news I went into complete de-escalation and comfort mode.
“We’ll figure this out.” “This isn’t your fault at all.” “Thank you for telling me.” “We will deal with this together.”
I fully accepted him and this condition because I know that genital herpes isn’t actually that big of a deal health wise. (First break out comes with a fever but mostly it’s just the blisters that are the recurring problem).
I know it’s a fairly common STI that can be treated with medication.
Later on we talk about it. And he tells me that if the roles were reversed, if I had herpes and he for sure didn’t, he wouldn’t have stayed with me.
I was deeply hurt but I had to respect his decision since it’s his health.
But still… it really hurts me that he wouldn’t do the same.
I’m just looking for someone to help me rationalize this in my head. Not looking for who’s right or who’s wrong. I just don’t want to feel upset about it anymore.”
Editor’s note: Leave. Him. Now.