How to accept my partner doesn’t get very wet? Or get better at communicating about it??
This is starting to affect my mental health and i’m hoping to get some answers, maybe from women who had a similar “body chemistry”.
When we f, my partner doesn’t get wet like I am used to with past partners. When we first started she did but we were long distance for a long time and there was a lot of excitement.
Now that we are living together long term (a few years now) she doesn’t seem to get wet even when she is turned out.
If we do foreplay for awhile. We frequently use lube and I have always found lube to be useful in some situations so I am aware of how to mitigate this on the physical side of things.
I’ve tried vanilla foreplay, making out, touching over panties, spanking, some elements of D/s, her performing oral on me, me performing oral on her (she’s said she doesn’t get much out of it despite my best efforts)
I am trying to accept this but it’s really starting to tank my self esteem.
The last I talked to her about it she said she “is also worried about it” but we haven’t discussed it much since then because I don’t want her to feel like I’m judging her if that’s just the way she is.
I have always been decent in bed and was the first to make her finish in several different ways (even though she had a decent amount of experience in the past).
Now I have her play with herself using a toy to finish but anything other than that hasn’t lead to finishing in a long time.
Is this all me? I have a strong libido which is keeping me going but to be honest I wish I could make it go away. She has a responsive drive and says she wants to please me but I am having trouble trusting her.
We have played around with things like bjs to keep me satisfied in between sessions but I can’t tell if she wants to do it or is just doing it reluctantly. I guess I’m in my head a lot lately.
I guess I’m ranting here because I like to f for a little longer, nothing crazy like 20-30 minutes and I made an off-hand comment about us liking to have good length sessions last night and she said it could be a bit shorter …
I don’t know what she wants now and I don’t know what to do anymore. It feels like my relationship is falling apart