GUY’S GF KEEPS SPENDING HIS MONEY, EVEN GO AND BUY PET & MAKE HIM TAKE CARE OF IT

My partner (25F) consumes all my (23M) money, help

my girlfriend represents a very large financial expense for me. Dinners, outings, trips, she even gave me a pet that I have to take care of, feed and pay for vets for the rest of his life.

I don’t know if this is worth it, I have a good salary but she consumes everything. She continues studying and all the money she receives comes from her parents.

I don’t want to spend my life wondering how I’m going to pay off my credit card next month and spending it all on this.

At the beginning of the relationship, she disrespected me a lot and hurt me a lot, and that is something that continues to affect me, she makes me ask: is all this worth it?

we have talked about this. She has changed, I have explained the situation to her and she has told me that it is okay for her to spend less, but despite everything, I know that she is not happy with that, I know that she did not like that talk.

I’m afraid of hurting her if I left her, I know that despite everything she loves me, but I don’t know what to do.

I have goals and in this way I will not achieve anything, if it were not for her, I would have already made the trip of my dreams and I could be better financially.

Help me, I don’t know what to do. My credit card debt is getting bigger.

Netizens’ comments

1. You obviously don’t like her anymore, why not just break it off now, if you feel your relationship is based around consumerism rather than love then there is no hope. If you got married, would the vow ‘for richer or for poorer’ matter? If you think not then there is probably no future.
   To start why not make a list of all the good and bad points in your relationship, compare and if you think it’s mostly bad then just break up.
2. She’s using you. If you tell her you can’t continue spending the way you are and she chooses to ignore that, understand she does not respect you and just wants what you’re providing.
3. Ask yourself if you’re trying to buy your gf’s love. You’re living beyond your means to make her happy, and even when she tells you that it’s ok to spend less on her you don’t believe her. You even acknowledge that you’re throwing away your future to do this.
   Remember that you can always rehome a pet. Tell her that you simply can’t afford to take care of it anymore and offer her to take it, otherwise start looking for a good home for it. Let her know how seriously in debt you are and stop going on expensive dinners, outings, and trips. Learn to cook her favorite meal, enjoy time at home with her, visit a local museum, etc. Don’t be afraid that she’ll leave you if you stop paying for everything. If she does, she didn’t love you anyway.