My GF (23F) and I (27M) have a very healthy and living relationship. It’s been going on quite well and we decided to move in together last month.
Honestly it was great to finally have the privacy and the ability to spend more time with each other and as a result we ended up having more intimate time in the bedroom.
It was really great for the most part but then last week she told me she likes being beaten. I didn’t know she was into that kinda stuff.
I went along with it and tired it once but she said I wasn’t even 10% of what she expected.
I really don’t feel comfortable hitting her but I don’t know how to tell her this as I don’t want to hurt our relationship.
- I would say absolutely don’t go down that road with her. Tell her it’s a hard boundary for you. Doing something like that during intercourse when you don’t also want it could be traumatizing for you.
- If you’re going to go through with something so extreme, get some kind of written and video’d confirmation that this is what she wants to explore.
Last thing you want is to have her frame you. Can NEVER be too careful with things like this.
She might see it as you being paranoid but it is worth it. And of course, if you don’t want to go through with it, no one’s making you. You can always say no