Cancelling my son’s birthday party because my Mother-In-Law left poop on my toothbrush
My mother-in-law watches my three kids. They are age 5, 3 and 7 months. My mother-in-law usually watches them and drops them off from school. The kids are battling a stomach virus so everyone was home on Monday.
The little one had a poop explosion so my mother-in-law washed her butt in our bathroom sink. However, she did not clean up after and there was poop all around the sink, on the toothpaste, on the toothbrushes and the little cups that the kids use when brushing their teeth. I have pictures if you guys really want to see. (editor’s note: please no)
This has happened before but it’s the first time we said anything. When my wife called her mom to be more careful because it’s absolutely disgusting and gross. However, once her sisters (both in their 30s and single for good reason) caught wind that my wife ‘belittled’ their mother, all hell broke loose. The sisters began defending the mother, calling out how dirty/messy our house is, calling my wife fat and basically just saying how lucky we are to have the MIL in our life and it’s no big deal. In fact, were the a-holes for being upset about this.
I guess the sisters got to my mother-in-law because then MIL came back and started parroting the same talking points about how messy our house is, how ungrateful my wife is and how my MIL cleans our house and cooks for the kids all of the time. My 5 year old son was also at her house this weekend and had an accident where he pooped on the bed cuz he’s sick. That was also thrown in our face multiple times. They also referred to watching our kids as FAVORS which is weird because they always ask to take them.
My mother-in-law says she won’t come ever again to watch the kids. She no-showed today so I had to apply for leave to watch the baby which is fine. However, I don’t like how the MIL is affecting my job and career with her pettiness as I had some important stuff scheduled today. Keep in mind, we pay her $300 (cash) a week to watch the kids. Now I’m going to pay about $150 more per month for someone to watch the kids which is no big deal really.
However, my son’s birthday is tomorrow. They had a big ol party planned at my mother-in-law’s for Saturday. However, I have told everyone that we will not be attending the party and we have barred her family from seeing, giving gifts or even speaking to the kids for the time being.