My boyfriend believes that I “owe” him favours in bed because he “puts a roof over my head.”
The title basically says it all. My (F28) bf (M27) has said to me several times that I have to blow him because he puts a roof over my head.”
I have lived in his house with him for the last 3 years, and I pay him rent each month. I buy all of our groceries, cook all of our meals and clean the house.
I go down on him every time we get intimate, and it’s never reciprocated in any sort of way. Our intimate life in bed feels very one sided and unfair from my perspective.
He has said that I owe him multiple times in the past few weeks and it has left me feeling pretty upset and angry.
I have also tried to talk to him many times about how I feel our activities in bed is one sided, however he will ignore me and completely stonewall me whenever he doesn’t like what I’m saying.
Yikes. Even if you didn’t pay rent or buy anything you don’t owe anyone favors. That’s not how relationships work
The fact that you do pay rent makes it even worse
Tell him you will stop paying rent and he can pay for head, and tell him you’re quite expensive