For some reason my son cannot wipe properly. This was never a concern to me as his mom did the laundry.
Unfortunately she is sick right now so I have taken over the household chores that she used to handle. My son is still responsible for his and I do mine as well as hers.
First day I did laundry I gagged and almost puked from his underwear. If he were three and not toilet trained I might understand how they end up like this. But he is a healthy young man. He should not be this unwiped.
I talked to him about it and he said he would make an effort to do a better job. Nope. No change in the situation.
So I went a bidet in the toilet. We already have one in our master bedroom. I told him that he has a choice of either using the bidet or washing his own underwear. He doesn’t know how to use the washing machine and he refuses to do them by hand.
He started going commando. Which just meant the problem was his jeans now.
So I said that we might need to take him to the doctor to see what is wrong with him. If it’s physical or psychological.
I also said that the next time his friends were over I was going to ask them is they left their underwear in the same condition. I WOULD NEVER ACTUALLY EMBARRASS HIM LIKE THAT.
He said I was being an a-hole and he called his mom to tell her what I was doing. She said that he was just like that and I could deal with it until she was better.
I don’t think that’s a great plan. If this kid never learns to clean properly he will suffer when he’s older.
He has started using the bidet but he says that it is gross and weird. I said it was grosser and weirder for a young man to crap his pants every day.