I’m 27f grandparents are Mary 70f and John 72m. They’re technically not my grandparents I met them when I was 10 they lived next door.
My mom was single and working multiple jobs 7 days a week. So we kept each other company and developed a grandparents/granddaughter relationship.
They have 2 kids and 4 grandkids. I’m not sure how old they are but likely in their 50s. When I was younger I would joke and say “when you die in 100 years please leave me your teapot sets.”
She’d laugh and say she’ll put it in the will. I moved away as a teen but we still talk every day.
I went to visit last year and she had everyone over for dinner. When she brought out dessert she brought the teapot out. I said don’t forget to leave me that in your will. She said, “oh don’t worry you’re getting everything.”
I laughed because I thought she was joking. She wasn’t I’m the sole heiress in their will. Her kids were pissed! They came up to me when I was getting in my car and told me they knew what I was doing and I should be ashamed.
I told them they’re the ones who should feel shame. They live their lives as if they don’t have parents. They go on yearly family vacations without them. Mary calls me crying because nobody visits (unless they need favors)or brings them along. They rolled their eyes and told me I was out of line and that it was family business and I wasn’t family.
Now the inheritance is a lot. It could pay off my car, loans, and I can move out. But it’s money they’ve been saving for over 50 years. They’ve received multiple inheritances and saved it all. The money would certainly help me but I think it’s unfair to be left all the money.
So, for months I’ve been trying to get them to use the money instead. To go travel like they always wanted. So after months of convincing them, they agreed. I set them up with a friend who is a travel agent and they’re planning a two-year-long vacation.
They’re super excited but their kids are not. They added me on social media and called me on there to tell me that what I was doing is wrong. That I have no business convincing them to waste their money.
I said they were ungrateful a-holes who couldn’t appreciate the parents that raised them and worked hard for them.
They said the only a-hole here is me because I’m making sure they spend their money because I knew if they left it to me they would fight me in court and win because they were promised the money years ago.
I hung up. They didn’t contact me again but I’ve heard they’re still upset. Now I’m feeling weird about it. Is it their right? Especially if they were promised it?